About Stefanos & Chey
As Purveyors of Perversion, Stefanos and Chey are known for teaching classes that are entertaining (they've been called "better than a Vegas act") and also packed with useful and applicable information. Their classes always include a detailed handout. Together they host events and teach classes at least monthly in SF Bay Area and beyond. Chey is an ER nurse by day, while Stefanos is all kink all the time in his professional life as the Steward of The Upper Floor on Kink.com and as DM and manager of Bondage-a-Go-Go. They are compulsive volunteers within the leather community, and identify as pansexual polyamorist playsluts (and probably a few other P's they haven't thought of yet). They have performed, presented, and hosted events at many venues including the SF Citadel, Mission Control, Kink.com, NorthWest Leather Celebration, Kink Academy, Bondage-a-Go-Go, San Francisco's Supper Club, the Exotic Erotic Ball, Behind Closed Doors in Arizona, and in a number of documentaries across the world.
IT's a Trap: Predicament and Playful BDSM
This isn't always serious work we do! Predicaments are all about putting your bottom between the proverbial "rock and hard place" (and laughing as they are flummoxed by their situation); playful BDSM is about giggling together in scene and making your bottom participate in their own torment. This class will show you how to bring a new level of engagement to your BDSM play and go beyond giving and receiving sensations - create story lines and connect mentally with your partner. Watch the gears turn as your bottom puzzles through difficult predicaments; engage and consume their mind as they struggle to please you; delight as you make them giggle through their pain. In addition to demonstrating and leading you through many specific predicaments and “games”, we will discuss this type of play in a broad sense to guide you in developing your own unique scenes.
Fight Back! Resistance Play & Kinky Wrestling with Stefanos
The "illusion of non-consent" is one of the most common types of fantasies in BDSM, but devilishly hard to harness in a controlled scene. In "Fight Back" you will learn about the physicality, techniques, and psychology of resistance play and kinky wrestling. Negotiation specific to this type of scene and basic first aid and precautions will also be covered, in addition to tips and tricks, detailed physical methods for controlling your bottom, and bondage specific to resistance play. This is an edge play class. A live demo will be included. All levels of experience are welcome. Play Partners are not required.
Pryo Passion Fire Play from Beginning to Advanced
Heat things up and learn about giving and receiving a totally different type of sensation- fireplay! We will teach you how to make fireplay sensual, erotic, and painless... or how to mindfuck your bottom with a scary and sadistic fireplay scene.
This class will cover pryo-tools, safety, executing a scene, and the psychology of pyro-passion. We will then discuss and demonstrate, at the least, fire with wands, cupping, spraying, and flashing, and will include an extended demo to help you in executing these skills in the context of a scene. Time permitting, class participants will have a chance to experience fireplay as a top or bottom with our guidance.
First Impressions-Meeting new play partners and making the first scenes amazing!
“You never have a second chance to make a first impression”- it’s an oft repeated cliché because it’s true! Many crucial "firsts" go into a premiere playdate- poise, finding compatible partners, confident and empathetic negotiation, and reading your partner during scene. This highly interactive session focuses on connection and RACK and is geared to both submissives/bottoms and tops/Doms, with opportunities to assess your negotiation skills, consider your limits, and troubleshoot roleplay scenarios. We will include demonstrations focused on dynamic bottoming and reading and using body language in scene. This is a great session for those who are exploring a different role (topping/bottoming) or who are just looking for new play partners and want to be sure those first scenes are stellar.
Precipice (aka This Shit Will Fuck U UP): Extreme Edge Play
Dripping blood, violent rape, interrogation, assault... playing on the brink can be vastly rewarding, but also both psychologically and physically dangerous (which is of course part of the appeal). In this class, we will discuss types of edge play scenes, negotiation and aftercare for this type of play, and how to take yourself (and your partner/s) to the limit... and then pull them (and yourself) back. There will be numerous demos, including extreme blood play (it will require a kiddie pool), stun guns, emotional edge play, and assault/rough body play. This class is not for beginners or the faint of heart! We will demonstrate various advanced-level skills but the focus is not on a how-to for these specific activities (and knowledge of these specific types of play is not required) but rather our focus will be incorporating these and similar extreme elements into a scene.Seeing Red: Medical Staples & Cutting
People who like play piercing usually LOVE medical stapling, and there is nothing quite like the sensation of cutting - the fear, as you see and feel a blade against your skin, the sharp, immediate pain as the cut is made, the slow tingle and wet feeling of blood dripping down your skin... ahem - where was I? In this class, we will discuss and demonstrate surface cuttings using sterile scalpels, medical stapling (including advanced techniques for placement, such as crossing and lifting, as well as sadistic removal ideas), and structuring a scene around these activities. This is edge play (um, pun intended?) and not advised for newbies. There will be a focus on RACK (with safety info from Chey, and ER RN) and making these activities as safe and sexy as possible. We will demonstrate a cutting - due to time/logistical limitations, we are not able to allow class participants to practice cutting. If time allows, we will give class participants a chance to practice placing and removing a staple in our stunt bottom!Seeing Red: Blood draws (venipunctures) & Blood Rituals
Almost every culture has rituals and beliefs, both spiritual and social, specific to blood. The Catholics have the Eucharist, many Japanese believe that blood type defines personality traits, numerous native bonding ceremonies include exchanging blood, and the list goes on. The sight or smell of blood can elicit fear or arousal (or both), and is both transferable and integral to an individual. Blood, regardless of the specific symbolism, is powerful stuff. Harnessing this in scene can bring a new level of spirituality to your play- or can be used to command fear and mindfuck your bottom. This is edge play and not advised for newbies.
This class has three sections. First Chey, an ER nurse, will give a brief presentation on the medical how-to of obtaining blood using butterfly needle sets and clean technique. This will include information on negotiation specific to blood play, vein anatomy and physiology, safety considerations, and practical tips and tricks on performing venipunctures. The second section will deal with what to DO with all that beautiful blood now that you've obtained it, including specific examples and demonstrations of blood rituals and scenes. Finally, as time allows, we will have supplies for guided practice during the class. Note that while we may be able to pair people up, if you have your heart set on practicing we recommend that you come with a willing partner.
This class has three sections. The first will deal with the medical how-to of obtaining blood using butterfly needle sets and clean technique. This will include information on negotiation specific to blood play, vein anatomy and physiology, safety considerations, and practical tips and tricks on performing venipunctures. The second section will deal with what to DO with all that beautiful blood now that you've obtained it, including specific examples and demonstrations of blood rituals and scenes. Finally, we will allow time for guided practice- note that while we may be able to pair people up, if you have your heart set on practicing we recommend that you come with a willing partner. After all, Stef may have great veins, but he's only willing to be poked so many times...
We will have supplies for in-class use and will also have some supplies for sale so that you can go home and practice.
Seeing Red: Blood draws (venipunctures) and advanced blood play Interactive blood pendant version
Almost every culture has rituals and beliefs, both spiritual and social, specific to blood. The sight or smell of blood can elicit fear or arousal (or both), and is both transferable and integral to an individual. Blood, regardless of the specific symbolism, is powerful stuff. This session will focus on blood play in D/s relationships, and will conclude with an opportunity for participants to make a blood pendant.Remedial Ropes 1: Beginning Bondage
This is the perfect class for you if your bondage skills begin and end with tying your shoes. We will cover the basics of bondage safety, building a rope kit, teach five basic knots and two basic ties, and discuss how to apply these to create a rope bondage scene. Great bondage doesn’t require knowing a lot of fancy knots, just that you know how to apply a few very basic and multi-purpose knots and ties - by the time you leave this class, you’ll have a solid foundation of knowledge that will serve you well in the bedroom or the dungeon. This is an interactive class - everyone will get tied up and everyone will learn to do the ties. All Remedial Ropes Classes are stand alone and do not require any previous rope experience. We will provide a limited amount of rope for in-class use. You do not need to come with a partner to enjoy this class.
Remedial Ropes 2: Beginning Bondage Variations
This is the perfect class for you if your bondage skills begin and end with tying your shoes. We will briefly cover the basics of bondage safety, building a rope kit, and creating a rope bondage scene. We will then teach a basic single column tie, 5-second cuff, arm gauntlets, and the best arm binder we’ve ever seen. The class will close with a demonstration of the creative process of creating a body harness and discussion of the form and function of these "rope doilies."
This is an interactive class- everyone will get tied up and everyone will learn to do the ties. All Remedial Ropes Classes are stand alone and do not require any previous rope experience. We will provide a limited amount of rope for in-class use. You do not need to come with a partner to enjoy this class.
This is the perfect class for you if your bondage skills begin and end with tying your shoes. Remedial Ropes includes sections on basic bondage safety, building a rope kit, and simple knots to create bondage anywhere. We will then show ties for discrete and immediate uses in the bedroom including lacing your bed with tie points and moment's notice ties for 1 to 4 point restraints. Finally, we will demonstrate variations on these ties and discuss how to apply these to enhance your sex life and create a rope bondage scene! This is an interactive class- everyone will get tied up and everyone will learn to do the ties. All Remedial Ropes Classes are stand alone and do not require any previous rope experience. We will provide a limited amount of rope for in-class use. You do not need to come with a partner to enjoy this class.
Who’s the Boss? Power Playfulness in the Bedroom: Beginning D/s and bedroom kink
For those who want to add a little spice, playfulness, fantasy, and mental connection to their sex lives, this class is for you! Undressing, kissing, dirty talk, and foreplay- all the sexy things you already do can be slightly adjusted to fit into bedroom dominance. We will start by introducing the idea of playing with power exchange and discuss using safewords to enhance your play. We'll show some specific techniques to get you started (including kissing, hair pulling, verbalization, and using teeth and nails for maximum effect), and finish it off with a detailed demonstration of reading and using body language in this context.
Everything Cock, From Blowjobs to CBT: If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it!
Whether you want to be naughty or nice to the cock(s) in your life, this class will have something for you! We will start with a basic discussion of anatomy, safety considerations, negotiation, and circumcised vs. "intact" vs. strap-on cocks. Then comes the nice with a detailed discussion of manual and oral sex techniques that will blow minds! Tips on communication and secrets to finding out what works (and doesn't) for them will be included. Next we will show some basic cock and ball bondage, including tying everything up in a neat (and easy!) package and making a cock "helicopter." We will also touch on chastity devices, cock rings, and other accessories. Things will get more sadistic from there, as we move into impact play techniques, "ball busting," and finally play piercings of the cock and balls (for this we assume a basic background in play piercing technique). Note that this class will not delve into types of play that involve urethral insertion (sounding, catheters).
As we have a lot of topics to cover, this class should be considered a survey of these topics. In the last half hour of the class, we will poll the audience and cover in more depth the topics that YOU determine you are most interested in, whether that is handjob techniques for intact cocks, strap on play, bondage, butterfly boards, etc. While we will cover both flesh and silicone cocks, there are a number of topics that will apply only to flesh cocks (specific bondage techniques, piercing, etc).
About the Instructors: Both Stefanos and Chey possess cocks (although Chey’s is only part time) and, being pansexual sluts, they both have a good deal of experience playing with cocks as well!
RACK Me Up: Risk Aware and Dynamic Bottoming
Details Coming soon.
CASE SCENARIOS: SF Citadel Dungeon Monitor Training
Case Scenarios will lead you, the DM, through specific scenarios you might encounter as you work a shift. This class will be very different from any other DM training in the Bay Area- we will have less than 15 minutes of lecture before getting down to actually SHOWING you scenarios and letting class participants troubleshoot these situations.
We believe that the best way to learn how to DM is by actually DMing and practicing the decision making and intervention process in realistic situations. By providing concentrated examples of many problems a DM might encounter, we think this class will provide "real life" training that will serve both experienced and novice DMs well.
You could work 20 shadow shifts and never see the number of rule-breaking and unsafe situations that you will see and manage in the three hours of this class.
You are welcome to attend even if you are not interested in volunteering as a DM, as this class will provide useful information on conducting a safe scene and "fitting in" in the public dungeon environment, as well as orientation to the SF Citadel rules and BDSM community "norms."
Here is what some attendees had to say about previous Case Scenarios classes:
"Very entertaining and informative for sure... We had a great time... I think you guys should take that show on the road - you'd be a hit everywhere!"
"The case scenarios DM training class was fantastic, very informative, it allowed me to view scenarios that I would have maybe never thought about, or even seen for many years. It will not only help me immensely as a DM but in considering my own dungeon etiquette."
"Better than a Vegas act!"
"Both informational and hilarious."
"This is the best DM training I've ever attended. The style of instruction was so engaging. Thank you!"
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